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Dear Lifehacker, Every time I give my girlfriend a back massage, I kind of give up early because my arms get tired and I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. I'd like to get better at it, though, and I also have my own tension especially in my shoulders I'd like to massage out. Do you have any massage tips I can use? Dear AM, It's an interesting predicament, isn't it: Few of us are born with innate massaging skills, yet virtually all of us love to give and receive good massages.
Because of the many benefits of massage— relieving pain and reducing stress—learning to give a better massage to yourself or your partner can be profound, and everyone can do it. I spoke with expert masseuse and founder of Elements Therapeutic MassageMichele Merhib, to gather some tips for increasing your massage-fu. Use your body weight so you don't get tired. One of the biggest complaints Michele says she hears from clients is that their partners only massage them for a few minutes and stop because their hands or arms hurt—that's that fatigue you mentioned, and it most likely has to do with your positioning.
Good massage is less about your grip and more about your stance and the use of gravity. So rather than trying to massage your partner when she's standing next to you or sitting beside you on the couch, have her sit on the floor on a pillow while you sit on the couch or in a chair while you stand behind her. She could also lie on the floor on some blankets or a mat, but when sitting she can get some extra stretching in by leaning forward as you massage her back.
Don't forget the oil. To prevent uncomfortable friction and help your hands glide easily, use some lotion or a little bit of olive oil when massaging. Don't just pour it on her back, though, like she's a salad. Use the oil on your own hands and warm them up. Do no harm. Avoid pinching or grabbing muscles. You can prevent this by keeping your fingers together and using your whole hand in the massage.
Michele likens massaging to sculpting: When working with clay, you need to spend some time softening it at first. Likewise with a massage, use soft strokes to warm up the muscles before you try to knead them. At the start, ask if the pressure is enough. She should feel pressure, but not pain. Adjust as needed: If she wants a deeper massage, lean in further, using your body weight. You can also use your knuckles to target really stiff muscles. The Massage for Dummies book has a cheat sheet for giving a massageincluding vulnerable areas of the body you should stay away from, which include the front of the neck, upper inner arm, and abdomen.
How to massage the neck and shoulders: Make a soft loose fist and use the base of your hand to apply pressure on her left shoulder, running your hand up the side of her neck until you get to the base of her skull, then go back down. Without breaking contact, repeat on the other side.
Do this a couple of times. Here's a video demonstration from Educating Hands School of Massage on giving a shoulder and neck massage using a squeezing technique. How to massage the back: With the base of your hand and the p of your thumbs, rub circles up and down along her spine to warm up the muscles. Be careful not to press on the spine itself. She can lean forward as you move down.
Press your hands into her back and lean in slowly to apply pressure with your body weight. Finally, use a kneading motion—using your whole hand to gently squeeze and knead the muscles along the spine. Here's a video for a full back and neck sitting massage a bit long, but relaxing to watch too. Michele offered several tricks for getting rid of tension and massaging your own muscles. Shoulders : Use the hand opposite the shoulder you want to work on e.
Gently press into the shoulder and run your thumb up against the neck. Repeat on the other side. Go ahead and try this now. Hands : Okay, now go get a pencil with an eraser. With your palm turned up, press the eraser into the fleshy parts of your hand especially the thumb padmoving in circles and going deeper as needed. The reason why the soft pencil eraser is better than just using your hand, by the way, is because your brain can confuse the als when it feels sensations in both hands, Michele said. One technique for relieving wrist pain is to push your hand back towards your elbow.
You should do this several times a day and also stretch out your hand and fingers on your massage breaks. Back : Those therapy balls or exercise balls are great for massaging your back. Lie on one and just roll around; this is great for aligning the spine. If you don't have an exercise ball, this BodyBack Buddy is an awesome tool for deep tissue massage on hard-to-reach muscles. Feet : Athletes are familiar with this trick: Roll your foot Can i give you a massage a tennis ball or golf ball, moving side to side and from toes to heel. Spend more time in the sensitive foot arch area.
Just one massage session might do wonders for your healthand at the very least you and your partner should feel more relaxed and refreshed thanks to your new and improved massage skills. You can keep learning massage techniques with these free videos at MassageFree. Do you know how to give a killer massage? Share your tips with us in the comments. Photo remixed from Can i give you a massage original by Adam Gregor. Michele Merhib is the founder of Elements Therapeutic Massage, one of the fastest-growing massage therapy franchises in America.
She is working closely with massage schools across the country to ensure the successful employment of massage school graduates. As a massage therapist herself, Merhib has contributed greatly to Elements' mission to be the Employer of Choice for massage professionals. A few tips from a massage therapist who hasn't practiced in a few years:.
Think broad. You can give a more comfortable massage by using broad strokes, kneading large sections of the muscle instead of targeting smaller areas, and using the heel of your hand or a loose fist. Even knots and trigger points can be worked on broadly and often less painfully just by loosening the whole muscle around the knots. This is very important to remember if your subject has fibromyalgia, since accidentally hitting a trigger point can result in hours or even days of pain. Avoid the thumbs. I'm not saying don't use them, but don't make them your mainstay either.
The best way to injure yourself during a massage is to overwork your thumbs. You'll get hand cramps galore, and get tired quickly.
Instead of thumbs, try using the heel of your hand, a loose fist, and if you want to get advanced your forearm and elbows. Also keep your wrists straight and use your whole arm to move, using your weight to add pressure. Not just your subject, YOU. If your hands are tense, the massage will feel like it was done with rocks.
Use loose fists don't even bother to curl the fingersfluid movements, slow strokes and circles. Don't overthink or analyze, put all your focus in the moment and FEEL the muscles under the skin. Giving a massage can be a very zen experience, and the more relaxed and in tune you are, the better the massage will feel to the person receiving it. The thicker the muscle, the heavier the pressure.
Thicker muscles can handle and usually require more pressure, so don't be afraid to push down on those supporting lower back muscles or the thick muscles that anchor the shoulder to the neck the traps, if you prefer names. Conversely, lighten up on thinner muscles and muscles that stretch over bone. And as always, make sure your subject knows that it's okay, and you actually PREFER, for them to tell you to go deeper or lighten up. Start shallow to work deeper. Use large, soft, broad motions to start, to get the surface of the muscle loosened up before working deeper.
If you try to do deep, heavy work before warming up the surface, it will be uncomfortable or even painful. You can tell when the muscle is warmed up and ready for deeper work because, surprise surprise, the skin and muscles actually literally warm up. The A.Can i give you a massage
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